Slide10What is Self Confidence? Although self-confidence can mean different things to different people, in reality, it simply means having faith in yourself. Confidence is, in part, a result of how we have been brought up and how we've been taught. We learn from others how to think about ourselves and how to behave - these lessons affect what we believe about ourselves and other people.
Slide43What is Self Confidence? B C D A Low-confidence can be a result of many factors including fear of the unknown, criticism. Being unhappy with personal appearance (self-esteem), feeling unprepared, poor time-management. Over-confidence can be a problem if it makes you believe that you can do anything even if you don't have the necessary skills, abilities, and knowledge to do it well. Self-confidence is not a static measure. Our confidence to perform roles and tasks and deal with situations can increase and decrease.
Slide44RELATED AREAS Confidence and self-esteem are not the same things, although they are often linked. Confidence is the term we use to describe how we feel about our ability to perform roles, functions and tasks. Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, the way we look, the way we think - whether or not we feel worthy or valued. People with low self-esteem often also suffer from generally low confidence, but people with good self-esteem can also have low confidence. It is also perfectly possible for people with low self-esteem to be very confident in some areas.
Slide73Ways to Improve Confidence 1 2 3 There are two sides to improving confidence. Although the ultimate aim is to feel more confident in yourself and your abilities it is also worth considering how you can appear more confident to other people. If you are applying for a new job, for example, it would be a good idea to prepare for the interview. Do it best you can do.
Slide86Start a task or project that you've been putting off for a long time. Often we put off starting important tasks because they seem overwhelming, difficult or awkward to complete. Make a complaint in a restaurant if there is a problem with your order. If you would not usually complain about a problem then doing so is a good way to improve your confidence and assertiveness skills. Stand up and ask a question at a public meeting or in a group. DEVELOPING YOUR SELF 01 03 02
Slide79Volunteer to give a presentation or make a speech. For many people speaking to a group of people is a particularly scary prospect. Introduce yourself to somebody new. This could be somewhere where people have something in common - like at a party or a conference. Wear something that will draw attention - such as a garish color. Personal appearance is an important factor in self DEVELOPING YOUR SELF 05 04 06
Slide80Positive Though 2 3 If you believe that you can achieve something then you are likely to work hard to make sure you do if, however, you don't believe that you can accomplish a task then you are more likely to approach it half-heartedly and therefore be more likely to fail. There is a lot of information about positive thinking both online and in print. The basic rules of positive thinking are to highlight your strengths and successes and learn from your weaknesses and mistakes. This is a lot easier than it sounds, and we often dwell on things that we are not happy with from our past - making them into bigger issues than they need to be. These negative thoughts can be very damaging to confidence and your ability to achieve goals. 1
Slide81FIND YOUR SELF Ideally, this will be someone that you see regularly, a work colleague, a family member or a friend - somebody with a lot of self-confidence who you'd like to mirror. Observe them and notice how they behave when they are being confident. How do they move, how do they speak, what do they say and when? How do they behave when faced with a problem or mistake? How do they interact with other people and how do others react to them? If possible talk to them to learn more about how they think and what makes them tick. Speaking to and being around people who are confident will usually help you to feel more confident. A D C B
Slide83Being assertive means standing up for what you believe in and sticking to your principles. Being assertive also means that you can change your mind if you believe it is the right thing to do, not because you are under pressure from somebody else. Assertiveness, confidence and self-esteem are all very closely linked - usually people become naturally more assertive as they develop their confidence. Be Assertive
Slide76KEEP CALM If you feel confident about a task then you will likely feel calm about doing it. When you feel less confident you are more likely to be stressed or nervous. Trying to remain calm, even when you're under stress and pressure, will tend to make you feel more confident. To do this it is useful to learn how to relax. Learn at least one relaxation technique that works for you and that you can use if you're feeling stressed. This may be as simple as taking some deliberate deep breaths both in and out.
Slide841 2 3 Avoid Arrogance Arrogance is detrimental to interpersonal relationships. As your confidence grows and you become successful, avoid feeling or acting superior to others. Remember - nobody is perfect and there is always more that you can learn. Celebrate your strengths and successes, and recognise your weaknesses and failures. Give others credit for their work - use compliments and praise sincerely. Be courteous and polite, show an interest in what others are doing, ask questions and get involved. Admit to your mistakes and be prepared to laugh at yourself!